How much is being written in magazines and on television about how important it is for each of us to love ourselves.
Psychologists argue that in certain situations it is only necessary to increase self-esteem, so in life everything will immediately change for the better.
But how to understand whether you love yourself or not? Sometimes it seems to us that we love ourselves. However, if you dig deeper, it turns out that in reality everything is completely wrong.
We represent 10 signs, the presence of which gives a person a clear dislike for himself.
10. Guilt
With a painfully low self-esteem, a person is able to reproach himself literally for the very fact of his existence. He does not leave the feeling that in all the troubles that occur somewhere nearby, there is his decisive contribution.
At the same time, this condition should not be confused with constructive self-criticism that helps a person in personal self-improvement.
It is also worth noting that quite often, next to a notorious person is someone who will by all means cultivate this destructive feeling for the purpose of his own benefit.
9. You are sorry to splurge on yourself
You feel uncomfortable if you spent money on a new pair of shoes, a beauty salon or just a pleasant trifle. You mentally scold yourself for these unnecessary expenses and count on what you could spend these funds with greater benefit.
This is more due to a lack of motivation. For example, why spend money on beautiful clothes if “I'm still fat,” or why buy expensive cosmetics if “nothing will help this person.” And so on the rise.
And if this chain is not interrupted, then everything will end with a complete degradation of the appearance.
8. You are haunted by illness
Suspicion and hypochondria are the eternal companions of people with low self-esteem. If you are able to masterfully invent new shortcomings in yourself, then why don’t you switch to fantasizing about diseases!
But seriously speaking, such behavior can not only alienate loved ones, but also lead to the development of real diseases, such as insomnia, depression, migraines, asthenia, etc.
7. You do not monitor nutrition
Either your appetite may disappear altogether and you will be eating almost effortlessly, or you will start to jam your problems until a new one appears - obesity.
And to increase self-esteem in a state where in your body 20-30 kilograms of excess weight is much more difficult.
6. It’s hard for you to ask for help and say no
You cannot refuse anyone, even if fulfilling the request greatly complicates you personally.
Therefore, people with low self-esteem often become the objects of manipulation of not very decent people.
Colleagues “ride” on an insecure person, the boss does not hesitate to load him over the norm, and friends use reliability, “filling up” with a bunch of innocent requests.
5. You are addicted to the opinions of others
You doubt your strengths and abilities, therefore, you cannot adequately analyze the events that occur around. Therefore, you have no choice but to make your judgment about something not based on your own conclusions, but on the words of someone else.
But this is only half the trouble. The fact is that having low self-esteem you cannot correctly “filter out” the opinions of people who are trustworthy and those who cannot boast of either perspicacity or outstanding mental abilities.
That is why the words of people who, in a good way, would not be worth paying attention to at all, you take to heart.
4. When you receive compliments, you feel uneasy
You think that you do not deserve such compliments, or even think that a person is laughing at you.
You do not believe a third-party opinion, but trust the voice of your subconscious, which constantly repeats about a million of your shortcomings.
3. You do not like to look at yourself in the mirror
“Well, why am I not Angelina Jolie?” A similar question worries many women who look with dissatisfaction at their reflection in the mirror.
It is possible that Angie herself asks similar questions looking at herself in some reflective subject, otherwise she would not have tormented herself with diets invented by anorexic women.
After all, if with masochistic corrosiveness to look for all the new flaws in yourself, then Miss Universe will feel like an exhibit of the Kunstkamera.
2. You have setbacks in your personal life
Don’t hesitate! There may be several options.
First: you will go out of your way, and not a single candidate for your hand and heart will appear on the horizon.
Second: you will attract people either of the same self-doubt who understand that it is better for them not to find anyone, or of individuals with pronounced tendencies for despotism and violence, because next to the unsure soul mates they can fully show their unhealthy qualities.
If your self-esteem began to fall when you have already entered into a legal marriage, then you will inevitably in the process of unjustified self-flagellation expect a sharp deterioration with your partner.
Remember, dislike of one of the spouses is an obsessive delirium of jealousy, a decrease in libido, increasing distrust and misunderstanding.
Do you want yourself such happiness? Then continue with the same intensity to engage in unjustified self-flagellation.
1. You do not monitor your appearance
Whatever you say, but low self-esteem is a wide step towards depression. And she, in turn, is manifested by indifference to her appearance.
Firstly, you become too lazy to waste energy on basic hygiene-related manipulations (brushing your teeth, combing your hair, stroking clothes, brushing shoes, etc.), in this case you don’t have to talk about makeup and additional personal care products.
Secondly, a person with low self-esteem is deprived of the incentive to work on the attractiveness of his image, because he is sure in advance that a priori is not able to please anyone.
With such reasoning, we can drive ourselves into a dead end, and the result will be rapid degradation both physically and spiritually.