After the birth of a child, the life of the family changes dramatically. Young parents, of course, tried to prepare for this exciting event.
They read a lot of books, discussed their childhood with mom or dad, talked with friends who had already experienced all this.
That's just even the most prepared parents do not imagine what awaits them in reality.
A child is a big responsibility. Mom and Dad are responsible for his health, physical and spiritual development. They again and again seek advice from doctors, relatives and friends, and seek answers to questions in books or articles.
Soon, parents start to panic. They understand that there is no consensus on any issue. They are confused, they do not know what to do in a given situation.
If you recently became a mom or dad, read our article. Below are 10 key misconceptions of young parents.
10. Walkers are required for the child
As soon as the child gets to his feet, the question begins to haunt the parents: “Have you bought walkers?”
People want to help and tell wonderful stories about how their child ran for hours on walkers. At this time they managed to do a lot of household chores, and the baby "literally in a week learned to walk independently."
Yes, there are still some benefits from walkers: coordination of movements develops, muscles of the legs and back strengthen, the child is free to move.
But there are much more minuses: a high risk of injury, a springy gait, muscle tone.
Each mom herself decides whether to use a walker. Even if you decide to purchase them, you should not get carried away. Walkers can be no more than 30 minutes a day.
9. Diapers should always be boiled and doused with steam
If you follow the advice of grandmothers, the first year of a child’s life needs only diapers. Each time they need to be boiled and ironed.
Don't you have matters more important? Devote time to your child, and you should not worry about the sterility of the diapers, especially if the baby has already begun to crawl.
There is no need for boiling and ironing. As a result of this, all microorganisms that are in the environment die. The child must have contact with them, then the effect of natural vaccination occurs.
By the way, carefully ironed linen absorbs moisture worse. A baby may develop prickly heat.
8. The longer you breastfeed, the better
Another controversial issue. Previously, mothers were recommended to breastfeed up to a year, recently this period has increased to 2 to 3 years.
Breast milk only benefits the baby in the first year of life. Then it becomes a habit, which over time is becoming increasingly difficult to get rid of.
Again, doctors recommend prolonged breastfeeding as a means of combating various diseases (women, not babies!).
If you are not a fan of breastfeeding, feed up to a year, up to a maximum of 1.5 years. This is quite enough.
7. The baby should be milked while breastfeeding
Modern pediatricians have long been saying the opposite. They recommend getting to know water after 6 months.
Breast milk contains everything you need, it is 80% water. No need to finish drinking.
Firstly, you cannot be sure of the quality of the consumed water, so is it worth it to offer it to a child? It can become infected with infectious diseases. Water can cause diarrhea.
Secondly, this can lead to the fact that the child will consume less milk, and gradually it will be produced less and less.
6. When a child cries, it is better not to approach him
Some doctors are of the opinion that there is nothing wrong with baby crying. They offer parents to wait, give the child a "cry." They explain this by the fact that the child will begin to manipulate the parents.
Imagine yourself in the place of a child. He is small and defenseless, he needs a mother, does he really think about manipulation at this moment?
Meet all the needs of the child, feed, change the diaper, hold it in your hands, and it will calm down.
No need to wait for the recommended 5, 10, 30 minutes. During this time, the child will have a tantrum, it will be much more difficult to calm him down.
5. The child is naughty only with a bad mother
When a child grows up a little, the mother has a hard time. He behaves terribly, does not obey, is naughty, although he can be diligent and obedient with other members of the family.
Take your time to get upset. Scientists have confirmed that next to the mother, the children relax, and this is a normal reaction to her appearance. This means that he feels comfortable.
Therefore, drive away the thought that you are a bad mother and in no case attach great importance to the opinion of the people around you.
4. The baby should sleep separately
For a long time it was believed that a joint dream is evil. Recently, it has become quite popular, but the debate about it has not subsided.
Supporters of joint sleep talk about high-quality lactation and a sense of security in the child. Opponents say it is unhygienic and dangerous.
Many mothers choose an intermediate option, they push the crib close to the adult. Perhaps it can be called the most optimal.
The child is calm, because mom is nearby, she, in turn, does not have to jump up for every scream. Parents can get enough sleep.
This is a big plus, because the next day, dad should go to work, and mom needs to provide the child with quality care.
3. The child must occupy himself
Most parents are sure that the child can find something for himself. They wait for him to grow up, play on his own, and they (finally!) Will have time for themselves.
The long-awaited moment does not come. Do not console yourself with vain hopes. You must teach your child to play independently.
Do not buy a child a huge amount of toys, let him develop his imagination. Do not spend all the time with him, but do not spare an extra minute for the child.
Soon he will grow up, he will have other interests, then you will remember that you missed a lot of opportunities for spending time together.
2. You can not often pick up - spoil
Moms, taught by the "bitter experience" of friends and relatives, are afraid to once again take the baby in their arms. “Spoil, get used to it, then don’t wean”, - all these phrases are heard regularly by young parents.
You can not spoil the child with attention, especially if he was born recently. The baby needs mom's warmth, take it in your hands. Do not be afraid, you will not have to wean.
As soon as the baby learns to crawl, and then walk, he himself will not want to sit in his arms. Moreover, do not skimp on hugs and affection in stressful situations, when the child experiences fear or strong feelings.
1. The baby does not understand the meaning of words
There are also many opinions on this issue. One of the most common - for a child, intonation is of great importance, not the meaning of words.
A case is known when one grandmother decided to conduct an experiment on a small child. He was 3 months old then. She spoke with him in a gentle voice, while uttering various unpleasant words. The baby cried.
Apparently, before he heard these words, and remembered them. This case shows that even the smallest children understand everything. This, incidentally, is confirmed by neonatologists who spend a lot of time with newborn children.