Sex is an integral part of the life of most adult women and men. It successfully replaces sleeping pills and painkillers, stimulates the production of brain cells, and helps relieve stress.
Perhaps the most important thing is the psychological state. People who have sex regularly feel a lot happier.
That's just sex, sex is different, and it often happens that the planned pleasure remains only in dreams. It's not about failed dates; there is something worse. Often partners make mistakes that affect the quality of sex.
Dreams of a beautiful night of love are broken about the harsh reality. No pleasure, instead partners feel annoyed, they are unhappy with each other. It often happens that one is left disappointed, while the other believes that everything went perfectly.
Below are 10 things that annoy sex partners. You will learn how to behave during the moment “X” and what mistakes should not be made.
10. Short foreplay
For a man, this is not so important, although many of them are also not able to quickly get excited, and most importantly tune in to "continue."
Yet women suffer from short preludes much more. After all, the final result depends on it. From the point of view of physiology, a prelude is obligatory; during caresses, a woman releases a lubricant that makes the process easy and enjoyable.
Of great importance are foreplay for the emotional state of partners. They help to relax, tune in to pleasant sensations. Therefore, do not immediately try to take the “bull by the horns”, take some time for foreplay, because this is the beginning of the path to the ideal orgasm.
9. Jokes in bed
Even if you have a great sense of humor, don't forget. Bed is not a stage, and you are not Petrosyan. Joking during sex is allowed only to those partners who have long known and can predict each other's reactions.
If you have never had sex before, jokes will be inappropriate. Do not laugh at the appearance of the partner or at how he behaves in bed.
Otherwise, forget not only about pleasure, but about sex in principle. Most likely, your chosen one will be offended and will never want to have common things with you again.
Yes, by the way, after sex, joking is also undesirable. Of course, if you do not want to see your partner again.
8. Poor hygiene
It seems that this is out of the question. If a person was going on a date, hoping for a "continuation", he had to take care of the purity of his body. But no, such situations happen very often.
To a greater extent, this is a problem for men who believe that they are irresistible without a daily shower. Although very quickly it becomes a problem for women who agreed to have sex with him. If your partner stinks, what kind of pleasure can we talk about?
Some girls are also not cleanliness. If you did not have time to take a shower before a date, this can be done immediately before sex. Do not be afraid, the partner will not run away and will not have time to get bored.
7. Complexes due to appearance
Women experience complexes due to their appearance much more often than men. Instead of enjoying the process, they think about their asexuality.
Extra pounds or skin problems can be a big obstacle to orgasm. Such a woman will ask to turn off the light and will bashfully cover herself with a sheet. It looks pretty funny.
If you decide to have sex, discard all complexes. The desire of a partner will not be affected by the presence of cellulite or excess weight. To always feel confident, look after your body, holt, cherish, pamper it.
6. The partner is distracted
Distracting during sex is unacceptable. If during the process you decide to chat on the phone, reply to a message on the social network or watch a football or series with one eye, get ready for a negative reaction from your partner. He will feel your indifference and may be very offended. Forget about business and enjoy intimacy with your beloved (or not so) person.
Also, do not try to discuss pressing issues during sex. No need to talk about relationships, choose a more appropriate moment for this.
5. The animal jumps on the bed
If you have an animal, you must have come across this situation more than once. The animal jumps onto the bed, some of them even try to "participate" in the process. If the pet is kicked out of the room, it starts screaming and scratching the door.
The mood spoils, desire disappears. Of course, there are people who are not confused by witnesses, but there are very few of them. Most under the gaze of a cat or dog will forget about all their desires.
Therefore, before having sex, take the animal to another room. Again, no one canceled the feeling of guilt towards the pet. Calm yourself with thoughts that this is not for long.
4. Inability to discuss actions
If partners only recently started having sex, they may be shy about discussing such issues. Another thing is couples who have been together for several years.
It seems that partners have long known how to please each other, but no. They are afraid to touch on the topic of sex. For many, this is a taboo, they are shy, they feel uncomfortable. Even if they don’t like something, they hush up the problem.
It cannot go on forever. Forget about embarrassment, tell your partner what exactly you like and how. You will be surprised how the quality of sex will change, you will receive much more pleasure.
3. Self-confidence
The partner’s self-confidence is very annoying. If he considers himself a guru in sex, it will be difficult to convince him of this. Often sex with such a person is very mediocre.
The partner is disappointed, not only has not received pleasure, but also forced to thank and listen to commendable speeches.
Unfortunately such a person cannot be changed; only a frank conversation will help. Although most likely he will be offended, and you will never see him again. He will leave you with the thought: “I am for her ... But she does not appreciate. All the previous ones were satisfied. There must be something wrong with her. ”
Therefore, if your partner has an excessively high opinion of yourself, prepare for an unpleasant conversation. If on the contrary, you consider yourself number 1 in sex, maybe you should not be so self-confident?
2. Selfishness
Another thing that will infuriate even the calmest person. When a partner thinks only about himself during sex, it’s sad. An egoist (usually a man) will never ask a partner about his desires, but he will declare his own. Many women endure egoists in their bed because of love, they do not think about themselves, about their pleasure.
Of course, if you are comfortable with this situation, you can endure it for a long time. You just have to think that in your whole life you will never know what real pleasure is.
1. Persistence
Among men (and women) there are many who do not want to understand a partner. They worry only about their desires and perseverance amazes them.
For example, one partner wants to do something that is unacceptable to another. It is difficult to answer which of them is right. Therefore, it is best to discuss such issues “ashore”. Yes, it’s difficult and unpleasant, but you’ll find out the partner’s preferences and understand whether it’s worth agreeing to “continue” the acquaintance.
If you love your partner, and he is too persistent in his desires, maybe it’s worth a try? Allow yourself to be free. Do not forget that you can do anything in bed, if only it would please both partners.