A wedding is an event that happens in the life of most people. Perhaps this largely explains the enormous number of divorces.
Reasons for marriage are not so few. Someone will say that only a great and bright feeling should be the motive for fastening two hearts together by marriage. And someone will object, assuring that not everything is decided by love.
We present you the top 10 most common reasons for marriage.
10. Low self-esteem
A notorious person considers himself worse than others. And if for some reason his relationship with the opposite sex does not develop, then he begins to feel even more flawed. Therefore, sooner or later, the thought dwells in his head: I need to get married / married to prove to everyone and to myself that someone needs me.
Typically, such people create a family with the first one to propose, and most often their chosen one is not a sincerely loving person, but one who tries to assert himself at the expense of a weaker spirit, and in this case, at the expense of a husband or wife with low self-esteem. Such marriages are rarely strong, and even less so - happy.
9. Despotism in the family
The cause of the irrepressible desire of a still very young man to escape from the “parental nest”, by creating their own family hearth, may be autocratic parents who in every possible way suppress any manifestation of the will of their child. Total control and tyranny lead to the fact that the child is waiting for the opportunity to create his own family, not in order to live life with a loved one, but in order to break out from under parental oppression. Very little attention is paid to the nature and similarity of interests with a possible partner, so such a marriage will be short-lived and unhappy.
8. Fear of loneliness
Although the fair sex is not offended, it is they who are most often guided by such a motive for marriage. This is especially true for those girls who do not accept another possibility of self-realization, except in the family as a wife and mother. By itself, the desire to start a family is by no means reprehensible, however, to think that just having an unloved person nearby will simply take and dissipate is very wrong.
7. Pity
There are frequent cases when in the family one spouse loves the other passionately and passionately, and the other does not feel anything for his soul mate but pity because of the inability to reciprocate. In this situation, we have one person reveling in his love, not wanting to see that his partner is indifferent to him, and another who believes that he sacrifices his personal happiness for the sake of his neighbor, and in fact cherishes his pride, considering himself the successor of Mother Teresa . Each of them sees only himself, and the union of two egoists will never turn into a happy family.
6. Marriage to spite the previous candidate for a place in the heart and life
This motivation for marriage is very consonant with the hackneyed expression: "To spite my grandmother frostbite my ears." In fact, the triumph of revenge will not last very long, but an unsuccessful marriage will remain. In addition, to use a living person as a weapon of revenge, possibly having sincere feelings for a future wife or husband, is very ignoble. It is not difficult to guess what the outcome of such a marriage will be.
5. Pregnancy of a partner out of wedlock
One of the most common reasons for marriage, especially if the bride is not yet eighteen years old. In this case, the future spouses are primarily driven by responsibility for the future of the child, and not by mutual affection. A woman is afraid to stay alone with a child in her arms; a man does not want to be an alimony and look ignoble in the eyes of others. Due to the fact that the spouses were guided only by external circumstances, deciding to marry, such families are rarely strong. Husband and wife feel themselves hostages of a difficult situation, so divorce seems to them a way to free themselves from unnecessary burdens.
4. Age
This reason for marriage is very characteristic of girls living in the countries of the former Soviet Union. The opinion that a girl older than 25 years of indecent not to be officially married has long been rooted here. Of course, many will argue with this. And the tendency towards a later marriage comes from the Western world to us by leaps and bounds. However, a significant part of our society still adheres to these principles, which is why the number of divorces is growing exponentially.
3. Material calculation
It should be noted that in recent years, marriages in which one of the spouses is guided by this particular motive, unfortunately, has become more frequent. Moreover, there are a great many people who want to cling to someone else's wealth, both among women and among men. At the same time, neither age difference nor a different level of intellectual ability is taken into account.
Among such marriages, the percentage of divorces is relatively small, but far from every case, life in a golden cage brings long-awaited happiness to hunters or hunters for millions.
2. Like everyone
This is not only the most common reason for marriage, but also probably the most stupid. People who marry or get married on the principle: “everyone ran and I ran,” sooner or later regret their action.
The motivation for such decisions is the stereotypical model of social behavior and the lack of a sense of personal responsibility for their lives, because “everyone gets married like that, and why am I worse”? But in such a delicate matter as marriage, there are no general rules applicable to everyone.
1. Love
Love, of course, is a logical reason to visit the registry office. However, true love requires a sense of responsibility for the other half and a willingness to sacrifice the most precious for it if necessary, and a blind passion, implicated only in a sense of novelty and strong sex drive, burns out very quickly. And if the spouses do not make efforts to save the family, then such a marriage will not last very long.