It is difficult to survive the betrayal of a loved one and many women cannot reconcile, forget, forgive. Even a short look of the husband towards another woman makes you think, but what if he cheats?
Psychologists say that the reasons for male adultery lie in polygamy and explain the desire to sleep with another woman as an instinct for procreation, the subconscious need to breed as many children as possible, with high levels of testosterone and God knows what.
But such arguments have little reassurance, because we and people, and not animals, are in order to be able to cope with our instincts and live not only momentary weaknesses, but also the mind. However, there are other reasons that push men to treason.
10. Lack of regular sex
Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the reasons for male adultery. You can fool yourself as much as you like, saying that sex in the family is not the main thing and continue to talk about understanding, respect, obligations. A man much more needs a banal (or better, bright, unforgettable) orgasm. If for some reason the wife does not want to make love to her husband and does not try to satisfy his physiological need, he will seek pleasure on the side. Sooner or later, he will find what he lacks with another partner. What is called, it’s to blame.
9. Do not walk up
This can explain the betrayal of men who, from an early age, purposefully studied, pursued a career, pursued a dream (apartment, car, summer house by the sea). They just had no time to walk with the girls, have fun and learn the opposite sex. Early marriage can only aggravate the situation. Most often, “dog males” appears in men of mature age after 40 years, when all global goals are achieved, and he discovers a lot of new things around - a work colleague is a very sexy girl, and the girls whom friends invited to the bachelor party are very funny and relaxed.
8. Boredom
When a person is bored, he seeks entertainment. Excitement, risk, a sense of novelty - all this carries away and makes you feel new emotions, which, as it turns out, have long been lacking. The ancient instinct of a hunter wakes up, which by all means must get the prey.
The process of betrayal tickles nerves, excites the imagination, increases the level of adrenaline in the blood. Treason from boredom is a fairly common occurrence. To exclude it or reduce the risk of going “to the left”, you need to provide your husband with positive emotional upheavals. In a happy family, both spouses do not get bored with each other.
7. Does not value relationships
Often women complain that a man does not value relationships. There are two reasons for this. Perhaps this is his normal model of behavior with loved ones, and he does not value anyone around. Banal egoism and "pulling a blanket" upon oneself are incurable. It is important to discern this in the initial stage of the relationship.
Psychologists say that many men do not appreciate excessive self-care and the behavior of a partner, which gradually turns into a mother, rather than a sexual girlfriend of life. It is good to be friends with such a woman, she will take all the responsibilities so that her beloved is well and thereby free him time for adultery.
6. weakness
“A very loving man” - they talk about a man who, at any opportunity, tries to get a friend’s wife at the party at the party or kisses the handles of ladies endlessly as a sign of greeting. Even the most self-sufficient man, being surrounded by many seductresses, will not be able to resist sex. Weak “to the forefront” a man cheats simply because he has a choice. He does not even think about why he needs it, just going to his goal, which after reaching it becomes unimportant. An ordinary dog, is it worth it to connect your life with such a man? You should think about it before the relationship has gone too far.
5. Revenge
If a man cheats out of revenge, then without the help of a psychologist can not do. Such behavior can be caused by an insult to all women in the world: mother, sister, childhood friend from the neighboring entrance, boss ... Betrayal of revenge often happens with men who have had a painful experience of first love, have had a hard time breaking up with their girlfriend and even after many years cannot forget her image, gait, smell.
Sex with other partners in revenge may be a response to the betrayal of his wife, who may not have destroyed the family, but left a deep mark in her soul. Sooner or later, the majority of men who “know about their spouse’s relations” but don’t dare to reveal themselves begin to “walk”.
4. Masculinity of a woman
A woman should be weak - this is a statement that does not require evidence. Today, representatives of the beautiful half of mankind have learned many male matters to their misfortune: to drive a car and even manage public transport, earn money and provide for a family, and, to be honest, even carry out hard work. This behavior does not color the woman. She begins to resemble a man, and sex between representatives of the stronger sex does not cause positive emotions for everyone. I want to carry a weak woman in her arms, hug, feeling her fragility and lightness, look after and receive grateful emotions in gratitude.
3. An example of treason
Another psychological reason. If a boy from childhood saw a model of a family in which dad is an outspoken male, then he eventually adopts it and begins to behave the same. Children subtly feel the relationship between parents, believing that everything that the closest people on earth do is right. Having a long-term example of a father’s betrayal, a grown-up son doesn’t even think of it, which could be otherwise.
The tempting experience of a friend who is constantly changing his wife can also induce a man to go “to the left” - since he can, why can't I? The situation is aggravated if someone’s example of infidelity goes unpunished, and the wife either turns a blind eye to jumping from bed to bed of her “faithful” or simply does not notice it.
2. High testosterone
Cheating is often "attributed" to the notorious male physiology, which should justify the unfaithfulness of the spouse. But in this case, it is she who becomes the reason that prompts the man to "gully." High testosterone levels often become a prerequisite for promiscuous sexual intercourse. But, as a rule, they are not associated either with falling in love or with the desire to be with a partner.
Changes in this case are dictated by hormones. A man with a high level of testosterone wants sex several times more than those with whom he is normal. If the beloved wife is physically unable to satisfy her husband’s restless appetite, then he selects an object to relieve tension “on the side”. Such behavior is akin to primitive, but many men, even understanding the abnormality of what is happening, can not do anything about themselves.
1. Accusations of treason
Pathologically jealous women often blame men for cheating, which actually was not. As you know, if a person is constantly told that he is bad, then he will believe in it, and will behave accordingly. So is the case with unfounded allegations of treason. Most often this happens when a woman does not have enough attention from her spouse.
But there may be psychological problems, which are the "first bell" about hidden deep conflicts in relationships. Some women manipulate their husbands with remarks about alleged treason, who in their eagerness to prove that “there was nothing”, they buy expensive gifts, arrange romantic meetings and express their feelings in a special way.
Whatever the reason for male adultery, it does not justify the fact of what happened. Understanding that you are being deceived destroys even the strongest and most stable relationships. And only trust and love can be a bastion of a happy family.